Kabhi na jao chhod kar ke dil abhi bhara nahi. If you have never experienced the euphoric sensation of orgasming at the same time as your partner, it’s time to scratch all your resolutions and get this on the top of your list.
Couples everywhere have yearned to master the art of orgasming simultaneously with their partner for a long time. But what’s the benefit? There are apparent benefits to having a simultaneous orgasm: you can both enjoy the exquisite sex afterglow, at the same moment, intensifying your sexual bonding.
Sexual pleasure can linger up to 48 hours after the act, according to studies, and the stronger the ‘after-glow’, the better the connection in the long run. It takes your emotional bond with your partner to another deeper (pun unintended) level.
According to a study, nearly four out of ten couples (37%) share orgasms at least half of the time they have sex. And out of the 4,400 people, half of the time, one partner reaches their trigger point and waits for the other half to catch up.
Remove any pressure from yourself or your partner, enjoy the moment, and concentrate on your erogenous zones to boost your chances of experiencing simultaneous orgasms. While you don’t have to have intercourse to orgasm at the same moment, here are 8 ways you can hit the high notes together.
8 Tips To Orgasm Simultaneously With Your Partner
1. Know Your Body
Aka masturbate. It’s time to dim the lights and get under the sheets to fly solo. When you self explore, you’ll learn how your body responds to stimulations and that can:
- Help you reach your orgasm
- Help you communicate better with your partner during sex
- Help you reach an orgasm together with your partner
Did you know that there are 12 types of female orgasms? And yes it’s perfectly possible to experience each one. Also encourage your partner to do the same and explore each other’s bodies together.
2. Learn About Your Bodies, But Together
This is the best way to learn more about your partner and yourself as a team. You can do this by mutual masturbation which involves masturbating while your partner is doing the same. Look for signs and how to go about themselves, their ticks before climax. You get to watch them and learn more.
3. Explore Non-Penetrative Options
Majority of vulva owners do not get off of penetrative sex, so why not try other options? There’s so much more that you can do besides that. You can indulge in these as a part of foreplay and try something new! You can try:
- Nipple stimulating
- Dry humping
- Manual stimulation
- Oral sex
4. Play Around With Sex Toys
A well-chosen sex toy (or two) that you can use together is one surefire strategy to get the sparks going in the bedroom. A shared orgasm is considered one of the most pleasurable aspects of sex, yet only a small percentage of heterosexual couples are able to hit the high notes together every time they have sex. Investing in couple’s sex toys that you may use together is actually healthy for your relationship, thanks to the benefits of orgasming together!
We recommend G-spot vibrators and wands for vulva owners since they have longer handles and are simpler to fit between bodies.
5. Lube It Up!
Don’t assume this is just for the oldies, everyone else should try it too! Lubrication can increase a woman’s sexual excitement and help her climax more quickly. It can help to speed up natural lubrication by making stimulation more enjoyable while reducing dryness. Lube can be used to concentrate solely on the clitoris. Before sexual intercourse, it can be used to excite women both inside (with fingers or a vibrator) and outside on the clitoris, making orgasming during sex even easier.
6. Sync With Your Partner
You’ll notice that when you pay attention to your partner’s needs, you’ll automatically begin to synchronise with them. Take turns touching and pleasuring each other, whispering in their ears. And if you find yourself on the verge of orgasm and your partner isn’t yet there, slow it down and take it easy. It’s actually easier to do this than it is to speed up an orgasm. Meanwhile, pay attention to your partner’s breathing, and try to sync yours with them. Once you’ve done that, you’ll be more on the same page, which will make orgasming together easier.
7. Be Vocal
We don’t mean wake up your neighbours in the middle of the night because of your late night shenanigans. However, communicating with your partner about your needs is essential. If you’re close to orgasming tell him, so they can slow down and be in sync with you.
Don’t be afraid to voice yourself, this will help you reach your orgasm and also time it with that of your partner’s.
8. Concentrate On The Yoni
The clitoris is the only organ in a woman’s body that exists for the exclusive purpose of pleasure. Knowing this, it makes sense to concentrate on it in order to encourage simultaneous orgasms. In fact, studies discovered that a woman’s G-spot is the clitoris, not the vaginal area. It also responds to vibrations more than any other portion of the body. Focusing on the clitoris, whether with a vibrator, tongue, or fingers, could be the secret to orgasming.
If you take longer to climax than your partner, have them focus on stimulating you for 10 to 15 minutes, either orally or manually, before joining in.
9. Don’t Chase The Goal
Ease up on the pressure, ladies, it’s not a marathon you “have” to win. It’s about the journey. Together. Focus on the moments you’re in, focus on pleasure. Set realistic goals, you’re not going to hit the ball out of the park on the first try and that’s okay! Concentrate on being present and appreciating this time of intimacy with your companion.
10. More Pressure = Less Results
Remember your exams? The more someone told you to study, you’d pull back and do the exact opposite. The same it is with orgasming together. If you exert unnecessary pressure on yourself or your partner to have an orgasm together, then you’re going about this the wrong way.
It’s a lot less fun if sex feels like work. So be kind to yourself and your partner. Don’t hold your breath for too much. Just enjoy it. Enjoy your time together, concentrate on what’s going on right now, and the orgasm gap may close quickly.
Achieving an orgasm together can be a highly rewarding experience. Simultaneous orgasms are more likely to become one of the many sexual experiences you and your partner enjoy the more you practise it. #BeALittleMore aware of the techniques to orgasm and climax at the same time as your partner. Simultaneous orgasms are more likely to become one of the many sexual experiences you and your partner enjoy the more you practise it.
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