Men all over the world have been looking for it since what looks like forever. And no we’re not talking about a lost city or something. You might have heard the term coined around in conversations regarding female pleasure, but chances are that you don’t actually know where to find it and how it works. Yes, naaris, we are talking about the chhuparustom G-spot.
To fill the gap of your less-than-average sex-ed class in the 8th grade (if you ever had such a class that is), here’s a detailed compilation of all the ins and outs of the hotly debated G-spot.
What Is The G-Spot?
The Internet often paints it as a mythical thing: the holy grail of women’s orgasms. As if it is the only thing holding females back from paramount pleasure. And while a lot of it holds truth, many researchers argue otherwise.
Sex researchers believe that it doesn’t really exists as an “actual” spot, but rather it is a part of the much larger clitorial complex (coming back to that soon). Clarifying that, it isn’t a distinct part of your anatomy. But you can still find your roadway to the region it is located in.
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How To Find The G-Spot?
You’re not going to be handed a map with directions to find it. So how do you reach your destination or get your partner to reach the spot? While it can be a challenge for the newbies, it’s not impossible. You do not need to be with a partner to find it out, you can do it when flying solo too.
Start off by relaxing, put on some good music, and take a bath. Light some candles and wear some sexy lingerie (if you’re into it). #BeALittleMore adventurous and self-explore your body. Do what feels good for you, this may take some time, so please don’t feel pressured to do it in one go. Take your time.
When you’ve settled in for a bit, keep massaging your vagina and insert a finger or two (or a sex toy). Lift your finger towards your belly button and move it in a “come hither” motion. Keep in mind that not all women have experienced it from the same spot, so it varies with everyone. Keep your attention on this region and, instead of the in and out movement, explore this region and let the pleasure build.
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10 Best Sex Positions To Hit The G-Spot
When you’re on top, you’re in control. This position allows you to manage the angle, depth and rhythm of penetration. Try to keep your back arched to reach the G-spot big O. Don’t be skeptical of using your partner’s thighs and knees for support.
How to do it: Have your partner lie on their back and straddle him facing forward. Use your partner’s knees and thighs for extra support.
This position practically guarantees hitting the G-Spot. It allows maximum penetration and it’s also easy for your partner to stimulate your breasts and clitoris for more blood flow to the G-Spot. It can level up your arousal.
How to do it: Stand on knees and hands, with your butt in the air. Your partner will kneel behind you to penetrate you.
3. The Soft Serve
This position is really perfect to hit the G-spot as it allows your partner to reach the front wall of your vagina where the spot is situated. The best thing about this is that you both can reach the clitoris for maximum stimulation. So use your free hands to get more blood flowing.
How to do it: Get into the spooning position first, with your partner as the big spoon. Bring your knees slightly up and have him enter from behind.
4. Cowgirl With A Twist
This position allows you to adjust the depth of the thrust and speed, so you have better control over which spots your partner is hitting. Angle yourself such that your partner’s penis or strap on (or fingers) easily reach your vagina’s upper walls, sit up rather than lean so far back.
How to do it: Just like a cowgirl position, sit on your partner and have him enter you. Place your hands behind on their knees or bedpost to create a 45-degree angle.
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The name itself sounds magical, so the results are bound to be. This position narrows your vagina and perfectly targets the G-spot. To help you with back strain, use a pillow under your hips and one beneath your head to have cushioning.
How to do it: This one’s easy, lie on your back with your partner on top. Position your legs such that they both lie on your partner’s shoulder.
6. Flat Doggystyle
This version of doggystyle, allows your partner to hit the G-Spot easily. You can take charge of the angle by adjusting a pillow beneath your pelvic bone, even though your partner might be the one in control.
How to do it: Just like the doggystyle position you’ll be facing down, but rest on your knees and arms instead of being in the crawling position. Your partner will lie down on top of you and enter from behind.
7. Reverse Scooping
This position is so much more intimate (and hotter), because you’ll be directly facing your partner. You can control whether the thrusts are deeper or shallower by tightening or opening your legs accordingly. Either way you’ll be seeing stars.
How to do it: Lie down facing your partner, side by side. Lift up your leg to allow your partner to enter you.
If you’re feeling thrilly and want to amp up your bedroom game, try this standing position. It will hit your G-Spot in an instant. Take help of a table or bed. You and your partner can experiment around and find out what works the best for you both.
How to do it: For this, get on your hands and feet. Your partner will stand behind you and pick you up from the pelvic region, and tie your legs around his waist.
9. Pretzel Dip
This position allows your partner to stimulate the G-spot from outside with added friction. It also gives extra attention to your clitoris, which means more blood flow and increased chances of reaching the G-Spot.
How to do it: Lie on your side, while your partner kneels in front of you. As they straddle your legs, move one leg around them.
10. The X Mark
This position is for you if you like your partner in control. This will allow your partner to hit the G-Spot and stimulate your clitoris and breasts at the same time. You just need a surface to hold onto. Your bed is the perfect place or a table if you’re feeling daring. Make sure to cushion your back if you’re on a hard surfaces for added comfort.
How to do it: For this, you’ll need to be at your partner’s hip level. Lie down and lift your legs up in the air, criss cross them (the X) and rest your ankles on your partner’s shoulder.
Overall in the end, it’s your body. So experiment with what you enjoy, and remember that not all women orgasm through the G-Spot. There are no set rules for orgasming. So rock your own with or without the help of your partner and explore what works best for you.
Women’s pleasure is still talked about in hushed tones. So here’s our shoutout. Don’t be afraid to take charge and #BeALittleMore open about self-satisfaction, because honestly it’s nothing to be ashamed about despite what your desi aunties say.
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