The word masturbation still receives glares and mortified expressions in Indian society. The concept of female masturbation or self-pleasure for women makes Indian women blush. “Tauba, tauba” and “log kya kahenge” have been putting a stop to conversations about such topics since forever.

Indian Society & Female Self-Pleasure

We don’t sit around and talk about self-pleasure over chai and samosas. With barely any sex education provided to teenagers and the constant parde mein rehne do attitude of family members, there is minimal awareness about masturbation among women. Even jokes and memes about masturbation revolve around men. In fact, girls who receive sex education are only taught that sex leads to unwanted pregnancies.

Did You Know?

A survey of 100 Indian women revealed that 30% of the women masturbated daily!

Guilt and embarrassment have been an unfortunate part of the conversation about masturbation. Some women never indulge in self-pleasure and some confessed that the only way they had orgasms were through wet dreams. With most sex scenes in movies ending with the male orgasm as if it were the ultimate goal, female pleasure has been pushed further down the list of priorities. 

10 Benefits Of Masturbation

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  1. The focus necessary to orgasm helps de-stress your mind.
  2. An orgasm-induced endorphin release also helps improve your mood.
  3. Having an orgasm could also make you tired, potentially helping you to fall asleep.
  4. Exploring what gets you off the best helps you feel more self-assured in your sexuality.
  5. It helps increase your libido and boost your sex life.
  6. Masturbation makes you more interested in having sex with your partner.
  7. It can be a mini-cardio workout if you really get active.
  8. Masturbating increases blood flow to the vagina, which helps counteract menopause’s uncomfortable effects in the area.
  9. Masturbating helps relieve menstrual cramps too.
  10. Some experts believe masturbating can even temporarily strengthen your immune system.

If you are curious about masturbation or having trouble achieving orgasms with sex, here’s a guide to female masturbation.

1. Understand Your Body

A woman’s body has plenty of erogenous zones. Every touch can feel and make you react differently. And it varies from person to person. Swara Bhaskar’s character from Veere Di Wedding was happy with a vibrator. But that doesn’t guarantee it will do the same for you.

Apart from the vagina and clitoris, there are several erogenous zones like nipples, inner thighs, ears, neck and other body parts. Begin by understanding your body and what works best for you. Schedule some quiet time to explore your body and you will become aware of your wants and likes in the bedroom. 

Did You Know?

80% women choose pornographic videos over erotic images.

2. Set The Mood

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Once you schedule some ‘me’ time, it’s time to set the mood. Get comfortable, dress up in some sexy lingerie or just dress down to your comfort level. You can turn on some music and even light up candles. If you plan on using sex toys, make sure they are cleaned and powered up. Avoid disappointment due to dead batteries.

Masturbation, just like sex, is not just limited to physical gratification. Just as you connect with your partner during sex, self-pleasure allows you to bond with yourself. It will help you combat body-image issues and low self-esteem.

Ratna Pathak Shah’s Buaji in Lipstick Under my Burkha threw light on a topic that many women quickly shoved under the pleats of their sarees–the desires of the quintessential elder women in India.

3. Choose Your Inspiration

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Did you know that you can turn yourself on by simply thinking about something sexy? Memories of your first kiss or even the hottie you met last week can turn you on. Let your mind fantasise about people or situations that send tingles down your spine. 

If that doesn’t do the trick, you can always turn to erotica or porn. Not all women prefer adult books and many enjoy good visual stimuli. There are plenty of women-friendly sites that produce a gentler or story-driven narrative. But it isn’t necessarily what every woman prefers. So let go of your inhibitions and search for something that brings you joy.

Did You Know?

58% women masturbate to pictures while 32% prefer words.

4. Take Your Time

Unlike movies and pornographic films, orgasm can’t be achieved at the flick of the wrist. The time it takes for one woman to reach climax is different from others. Remember, this is not a race and you are the only player. You don’t have to rush masturbation. 

Try new techniques or get freaky in a new place in your house. Hop into the shower or change it up by closing the curtains and laying on the couch. Take your time to enjoy all of the sensations you’re feeling throughout your body.

Did You Know?

46% women said that it takes them 5-10 minutes to reach the Big O during masturbation.

5. Get Innovative

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You don’t need sex toys to masturbate. A few gharelu nuskhe includes using the bed, pillows, the sofa, toothbrush, ice cubes, vegetables and bottles in an innovative way that can be pleasurable. Play dress up with yourself or consider role-playing to turn yourself on. 

The most sensitive part of the female anatomy is the clitoris which is often untouched during sex. Men are mostly unaware of this glorious spot of the female body. So try a new technique and use your imagination.

Did You Know?

14% women prefer using their fingers to masturbate while 24% prefer hand showers, jet sprays.

If you have queries or are unsure about anything, consult clinical sexologists and credible sex educators. They can guide you towards your path of ecstasy. A healthy, intimate relationship with yourself is vital for your physical, mental and emotional well-being.

Srushti Pathak
Srushti Pathak

A blogger, aspiring author and old soul at heart, Srushti Pathak believes in writing stories that touch the heart. She maintains that curiosity defines her zeal for writing and creativity in all spheres of life motivates her.

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