The singing sensation, Britney Spears, made it to the headlines when she won her 14-year prolonged battle against conservatorship, wherein her father dictated every term in her life. As she had stated during court proceedings, her father would even force her to be on contraceptive pills. After winning the long-drawn court battle and experiencing new-found freedom, she ushered happiness into her life by getting engaged to Sam Asghari and announcing her pregnancy soon after. No longer under the dictatorship of her father, she was finally able to reclaim her life and get prepared to welcome her third child, whom she used to refer to as “miracle baby”. But, alas, her happiness was short-lived.
Britney Spears Opens Up About Her Miscarriage
The Toxic singer opened up about her miscarriage through Instagram. She expressed her sadness at losing the miracle baby early in the pregnancy. She also rued the fact that they should have postponed announcing the good news until a later date when they would have been well into the pregnancy. Britney also wrote about how she continues to nurture hopes of expanding her family in the future.
3 Ways To Physically Cope With A Miscarriage
1. Keep A Check On Your Diet
While you can get back to your normal life from the next day, you need to keep a check on your daily diet. Since you can expect to experience a little weakness, you can ask your doctor to prescribe multivitamins. It is generally advised that you avoid lifting heavy objects immediately after a miscarriage.
2. Plan Your Sex Life Carefully
With regards to your sex life, you can continue having sexual intercourse unless you are bleeding or are in pain. However, make sure that you use a contraceptive. This is because it is recommended that you keep a gap of at least 3 months until your next pregnancy. A contraception is also essential during this time to eliminate the chances of infection. You can start planning your next pregnancy 3 months after the miscarriage, if all your medical reports are normal. Your periods is expected to occur 4 to 8 weeks after the miscarriage before it goes back to normal as before.
3. Seek Treatment To Reduce The Risk Of Repeated Miscarriages
It is a myth that repeated miscarriages are eminent if you’ve had a miscarriage once. Not if you seek proper treatment and abide by the necessary to-dos. Visit your gynaecologist or obstetrician at recommended intervals for a full body check-up. This will enable you to recover from the trauma physically and prepare yourself for the next pregnancy.
Gitanjali Banerjee, Founder of Fertility Dost, an infertility counselling platform, had experienced miscarriages before hitting up on the idea of her entrepreneurial venture. Her idea was to emotionally and physically support women who have undergone the same experience as hers.
3 Ways To Emotionally Cope With A Miscarriage
1. Don’t Be In Denial
The emotional turmoil of losing a baby cannot be expressed in words. It would be an understatement to say that the pain is immense. However, staying in a denial mode about this reality will do you no good. It will not help you to recover emotionally and plan your life ahead. Instead of clinging on to your past, you need to make an effort to move ahead in life for your own welfare, if not for those whom you value.
2. Share The Grief With Your Loved Ones
Sharing your grief will help you lessen the pain of your loss. Because talking about what you are experiencing internally will make your heart feel lighter, enabling you to come to terms with reality and helping you to recover gradually. You need to know that there’s always light at the end of the tunnel. You only need to find it out.
3. Take Professional Help Or Join A Support Group
You may feel like surrendering completely to fate. It’s natural for you to feel disconnected from society and cut ties with people around you, even those who hold meaning in your life. However, joining a support group where you meet others who have undergone the same experience will help you feel like you’re not alone. Sharing your grief is important in your path to recovery, whether it be in the comfortable confines of a support group or in the presence of a professional therapist. The choice is yours. Seek for help and you will definitely find it.
5 Indian Celebs Who’ve Experienced Miscarriages
1. Kajol Devgan
Kajol, married to actor Ajay Devgn, had talked about experiencing multiple miscarriages before becoming a mom to her two children, Nysa and Yug. She had been diagnosed with ectopic pregnancy. As a result, she had to undergo a surgery, which had put her life in danger. Kajol had emphasised how the support of her family played an indispensable role in making her get back to normal.
2. Shilpa Shetty Kundra
Married to entrepreneur, Raj Kundra, Shilpa had opened up about her miscarriage being a devastating experience for her. It made her think that she would never become a mother. Shilpa was diagnosed with APS syndrome that led to the unfortunate incident. However, later she conceived again and is now a proud mom to two children – Viaan-Raj and Samisha.
3. Geeta Basra
Geeta’s first child, Jovan, is a rainbow baby. This is a term referred to a baby born after the parent had lost a child owing to a miscarriage, stillbirth, or neonatal death. Married to former cricketer, Harbhajan Singh, Geeta had talked about the frequent hormonal changes that a woman undergoes after a miscarriage. She had also expressed how important it is for women to stay strong and come back stronger in the quickest possible time.
4. Gauri Khan
King Khan’s wife, Gauri, a noted celebrity interior designer, had experienced multiple miscarriages before their first child, Aryan, was born. SRK had been quoted speaking about the few difficult days as a result of the miscarriages, even after Aryan was born.
5. Kiran Rao
A film producer and ex-wife of Amir Khan, Kiran had suffered a miscarriage before being blessed with their first child, son Azad. Amir had opened up about their struggles post the incident and had spoken about how they both need time to heal.
A miscarriage is a traumatic experience, the extent of which only women suffering from it will be able to understand the most. However difficult it is, it is important to #BeALittleMore and make a conscious effort to restore normalcy in your life through physical, mental, and emotional therapy that helps you heal completely. After all, you have a bright life ahead of you and perhaps another pregnancy to plan. And that wouldn’t be possible unless you stay strong. More power to you.
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