Following traditional stereotypes, marriage is considered sacred and a highlight of a woman’s life. Whereas, divorce is a failure targeted towards the woman. Women after divorce are tagged as a divorcee and treated as if they are at fault. Women have faced the brunt of the after-effects more than men.
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Moving on can be hard. To break out of your daily cycle and habits can be difficult to overcome. But you need to accept the loss, and if you want to mourn for it. Grieving about your divorce will only make you feel better (even if it was you who decided on the split).
While you are on the road of grief and acceptance, it is crucial to forgive also. Forgiveness not only applies to the partner. Forgiving your partner is something personal and something you need to decide on, but forgiving yourself is a must. Forgiveness is the key to acceptance and moving on.
After your divorce, it is common to steer clear from the outside world to avoid gossip. You would also like to be left alone and wallow in sadness. But instead of choosing to be alone, go out and meet your friends.
While friends can be your saviours during a divorce, you must also consider therapy. Considering therapy does not make you mentally ill, it only means you need more help and clarity to move on. A therapist can help you in various ways like jump-starting your life, teaching you acceptance and forgiveness.
Independence, more importantly, financial independence is one of the most important factors required to lead a better life after the divorce. Get the job you have been dreaming for or complete your studies.
Putting yourself out there means chasing after everything you dreamed of. The dance class that you were scared to join, the solo trek that you postponed; conquer everything you ever wanted. You could also start dating again (whenever it feels right).
According to a study in 2017, only 1% of divorcees look into remarriage, and a majority of the percentage is of the male gender. Although the remarriage statistics show a huge difference in numbers and stigma around remarriage after divorce, the cycle is slowly breaking.
“Don’t let anybody bring you down or tell you that you are any less of a person or a woman, just make sure that you’re a strong, wonderful woman”