Psychiatrist & Sexologist Dr Sanjay Kumavat Shares Tips To Reignite Your Sex Life In Your 40s

Change in lifestyle, hormonal imbalances and physical and psychological factors can all affect your sex life. Sexuality is fluid in terms of attraction, desire, libido, gender, interest, boundaries, fantasies, and more. It changes over the course of a lifetime and fluctuates according to life circumstances and relationships. And it doesn’t mean it has to be unexciting and dull once you reach a certain age. You may need to put in a little more work, but romance and desire can be a consistent part of your life, no matter the age.

1. What are the signs of a stale relationship?

The signs for a stale relationship are as follows: – When a person is not as physically intimate as he or she used to be in routine life – Absence of touch – Absence of warmth in the smile or the hug – Scarcity of kindness to each other – Lack of appreciation, gratitude, joy, enjoyment in bonding

2. What are the common issues faced by a couple in their bedroom in their 40s?

Men and women both develop hormonal changes. This may cause changes in desire, sexual arousal, and physical comfort during sexual activity. In their 40s, a couple generally might require a gentle nudge in getting aroused. Attitude towards physical relationship and intimacy should be like a traditional gourmet meal rather than fast food.

3. What are some major causes of these sexual health issues?

Sexual health is an important aspect of the overall well being of both men and women. Substance abuse disorders in one of the spouse and physical illnesses are the major factors causing sexual health issues. Other factors are: – Taking partners feelings for granted – A kind of monotonous relationship and need for novelty – Lack of privacy because of children around – Any kind of misunderstanding in the couple

4. How does perimenopause affect your sex drive and libido?

Generally, it is associated with a lot of physical, emotional and mental problems. Disturbance in the level of the hormones oestrogen, testosterone is the cause of it. Perimenopausal women are not as easily aroused, and they may be less sensitive to touching and stroking. All the factors can lead to less interest in sex. Most women are unaware of the problems they are facing or the bodily changes within them. They may also suffer from sleep disorders, weight gain, fatigue headaches, night flushes and more.

5. What are some ways to reignite one’s sex life in your 40s and beyond?

Accept the changes happening in your body and love your body unconditionally. Make sure that you explore with your partner all means and ways, and don’t feel awkward to talk about your wishes in sexperimentation or choices. Choose comfortably the desired position that doesn’t strain you. Engage in behaviour that stimulates ‘feel good’ hormones by hugging, caressing, or touching.