Relationships are wonderful, yet living with your partner has its ups and downs. The romance of it makes it a vibrant experience. But managing chores can be difficult or awkward, be it a live-in relationship or a marriage. Splitting up chores, especially, can be tricky. The best way to do so, without arguments and misunderstandings, is through clear communication. If the stray wet towel on the bed or crumpled chips packet under the table makes you uncomfortable, talk about it. It’s important to be on the same page about household chores and tasks. Otherwise, one partner might do most of the chores and end up resenting the other.
Clean might mean something entirely different to you and your partner. While one may believe dusting every alternate day is fine, the other might obsess over cleaning every single day. The key is to discuss what the other person envisions and how to do it mutually. Negotiate the basics like how often a chore needs to be done and to what degree of cleanliness.
Household chores and tasks are not just limited to cleanliness. Paying bills, meal planning, grocery shopping and so much more fall under this category. Make a summarised list of tasks that need to be done around the house. Remember to include everything from changing light bulbs to sitting on hold with the WiFi company.
Some couples enjoy doing chores together as it strengthens their bond. And some divide it according to their preferences. A fair way to divide the chores is to decide what tasks you enjoy the most. Or take up chores that are important to you and let your partner do the same. For instance, if you are a better cook, and your partner is better at cleaning, it makes sense you make dinner, and he helps clean afterwards. Then divide the remaining chores evenly.
One sure way of starting an argument is to divide the chores based upon who does it better and faster. It might seem easier to pick up tasks that you have efficiently conquered but give your partner a chance to learn. Both of you have to relinquish a little bit of control and give each other a chance to learn some new skills. Avoid redoing things, just stick to giving relevant tips.
Making a schedule and setting deadlines for chores help a lot. A to-do list app or a simple one on your refrigerator will make things easier. Put up tasks like, ‘clean the bathroom on Tuesdays’ and even weekly or monthly ones like ‘pay the newspaper bill’. It helps partners avoid nagging each other or having to set out verbal reminders.