Whether there’s a pandemic or an economic downfall, one that nothing can stop are weddings! Indians are known for their lavish, extravagant wedding ceremonies. But times have changed and the minimal guest list restrictions are forcing the desi shaadi planners to rethink age-old traditions and techniques. Intimate weddings have always existed but weren’t the highlight of this celebration.

From her intimate mehendi and haldi ceremony to the star-studded wedding and reception, Neha Kakkar wooed us all with her intimate and well-planned wedding. While you may be confused, uncomfortable or lost with the new rules of the pandemic, having an intimate wedding can be beneficial in the future as well.

10 Benefits Of Having An Intimate Wedding

  • The wedding will be very memorable
  • You get to cherry-pick what traditional elements you want
  • You surround yourself with people who love you and know you
  • You can save money or splurge more on whatever it is you value
  • You can have your pick of venues, even very unusual ones! 
  • The wedding day can be a little shorter, giving you and your guests time to actually enjoy it
  • Your wedding guests will feel like participants, not mere spectators
  • You will experience less pressure because there’s less expectation
  • You can cut down on waste and be more eco-friendly
  • You can pose freely for the wedding pictures without too many people around making it awkward

5 Ways To Host The Intimate Wedding You Want

1. Choose Your Venue Carefully

With the shaadi season still pretty chill, you get to choose the venue of your choice. And with past expectations and requirements of making room for thousands of guests, you can pick a venue that’s perfect for you and fits your small guest list with ease. 

  • Choose An Outdoor Venue: Use this opportunity to look for venues that are amidst nature or simply serene. This will primarily reduce the pressure to be extravagant and be a break from routine for all your guests.
  • Use Your Terrace Or Clubhouse: Plan your mehendi, haldi, sangeet, roka and engagement in your house, terrace or the clubhouse. A small guest list can be easily accommodated at these venues and help you not splurge on renting expensive spaces.
  • Go Even Smaller With A Family-only Event: Not everyone loves a big fat Indian wedding. If you want to go simple, keep the event limited to family and close friends. This can take place in your house or a farmhouse near the city.
  • Make Sure The Venue Adheres To The Rules: Currently, there is nothing more important than following the rules of the pandemic. While choosing the venue, make sure rules and regulations are put in place to maintain the safety of the guests as well as the staff.

2. Upgrade The Menu

With fewer guests and invitees, you get the chance to go big on the menu. While an OTT wedding with a huge guest list might limit the items you include in your wedding catering services, with an intimate wedding you can go all out. Now that you don’t have to worry about your phupa’s bade chacha’s dietary restrictions, you can experiment as you like.

  • Try Local Restaurants: With the pandemic hitting the food business, especially local ventures, you can hire them to cater to your wedding. Choose a local business with high standards of hygiene and great quality food.
  • Go Lavish And Indulge: Instead of planning a four-course meal, you can upgrade to an indulgent seven-course meal with a variety of appetisers and snacks doing their rounds on the table.
  • Splurge On A Classy Option: An intimate wedding does not always equal a smaller budget, it can also mean that there is just more budget for your per-head count. A fancy dessert counter and a lavish open bar might just be perfect for your intimate wedding.

3. Make Elaborate & Personalised Invitations

Creating a thousand printed wedding invitation cards can be tedious, time consuming and wasteful. Also, this task is often handed over to professionals or done by another member of the family. In the case of intimate weddings, you can spend more time designing elaborate cards.

  • Experiment With Artistic Invites: Handwritten templates and handmade envelopes can make your wedding invitations stand out from the crowd. Impressive watercolour designs or plantable cards can be on your list.
  • Include Artisan Foods Or Gifts: One great way to invite your tauji who has always supported you is to send out a lavish wedding invitation with personalised gifts. Personalised favours curated for the particular guest receiving it can create a great impression.

4. Get Into The DIY Frenzy

A splendid idea for the family to come together and spend quality time is by jazzing up your wedding with DIY decorations. With the amount of time you spent at home avoiding crowds and public places can be utilised effectively to unleash the creativity in you. This is a great option for those looking forward to conducting the wedding ceremony at home.

  • Upcycle, Recycle And Reuse: From reusing those bottles and cardboard boxes to creating DIY wall hangings, dreamcatchers and more, there’s a lot you can do.
  • Make Your Own Jewellery: If flower jewellery is your go-to mehendi or haldi look, then make it yourself. A few YouTube tutorials, art and craft supplies and some creativity and you are good to go!
  • Play With Lights: If you are hosting a small wedding at your terrace, make sure to lit it up using fairy lights and mirchi lights including some scented candles to make your space all dramatic and impactful. These lights can be bought online and you can take charge of decorating it as you please.

5. Make It Customised & Memorable

It is everyone’s dream to make their wedding a special, unforgettable event. And you have the chance of doing so without spending too much or having to manage a long list of guests. The shorter and intimate the wedding and the guests, the sweeter and more memorable it is.

  • Go Nostalgic: Make sangeet night a cosy affair with pillows and mattresses, just like 90s Bollywood movies. Plan those old school wedding games which are much loved by our dadis and nanis to the little ones and make the most of your wedding celebration. 
  • Don’t Miss Out On Wedding Entertainment: Who said you can’t have fun at an intimate wedding? Borrow some speakers from your friends and set up your own DJ. Create your wedding playlist and let the music play!
  • Customise Your Booze: Because no celebration is complete without some chilled beers and tipsy cocktails. Create a signature cocktail that’s a reflection of the bride and groom.

Hosting an intimate wedding does not always have to be a modest affair. The privacy and exclusivity that an intimate wedding offers is a great way to celebrate the magical event named wedding. With only the closest people present to bless the couple, your big day can turn into an unforgettable experience for you and your guests. Intimate weddings have introduced a new realm of possibilities for you to experiment with and plan your wedding.

Srushti Pathak
Srushti Pathak

A blogger, aspiring author and old soul at heart, Srushti Pathak believes in writing stories that touch the heart. She maintains that curiosity defines her zeal for writing and creativity in all spheres of life motivates her.